A knock at the door

Grace Brickley (1904-2004). Click on the images to expand them.

She was not pleased to see me – this paternal first cousin of my (biological) great-grandmother, Opal Young.[1] Her name was Grace,[2] and we had arranged our meeting through the mails, never having spoken to each other by telephone. Before, as I had stood on her stoop waiting for her to answer my knock, it was hard for me to believe that I would be meeting with a blood relative of my grandmother’s – one outside the small circle of my grandmother’s own descendants. I wondered how she might appear to me (part of me thought surely on a broomstick?) and I wondered what of “her family” she might recognize in me, too.

In some ways I am not sure why Grace agreed to see me at all. She was, after all, a 91-year-old spinster living alone in the hills above Glendale, California. While I had done my best to answer her many questions in advance, the prospect of meeting a strange relation at the door that day must have both daunted and intrigued her. After our initial written exchanges, I had sent Grace a copy of Opal’s letters to my grandmother. I wanted her to have these as proof of life that I was indeed her “childless” cousin’s great-grandson.

I had tracked Grace down through Opal’s will, which was by then eighteen years old.[3] I was fortunate that Opal had stated her cousin’s name and address – and luckier still that Grace hadn’t moved in roughly 40 years. I’d also relied on information provided by the will’s executrix, Emma Lou Peake.[4] Emma had been Opal’s best friend, and she was someone about whom Cousin Grace had no compunction in voicing her disdain. Miss Peake and Cousin Grace appear to have been somewhat bitter rivals for my great-grandmother Opal’s attention, affection, and even her meager possessions.

Opening the door, a small woman greeted me cordially. Surely this bird-like creature couldn’t be related to my grandmother – my grandmother who had towered in stature (and voice!) over most men and women alike. However, as I crossed over Grace’s threshold their similarity rushed toward me. It was that same fearless air that always seemed to surround my grandmother.

She ushered me into her sparsely-furnished home. There were no pictures on the walls or adornments, save for her picture of Christ, and what looked to be an antique porcelain canister sitting alone on a cold fireplace mantel. An old Siamese cat she called Mitzi stared at me blankly from a back room. I recall only one sensible stuffed armchair, a table-style pole lamp, and a very old Zenith television. On the table edge was a dog-eared copy of Opal’s letters – well marked.[5]

There was no place to sit and I was not invited to do so. Grace’s fiery gray eyes measured all aspects of me with the hope that with any blink I might reveal myself the charlatan she’d hoped I was. Uninvited, I took my place sitting next to her on the floor as she lowered herself to her chair. As I started to speak, she pointed to the letters and said as if reading news from the Western Front, “Well, there can be no doubt, we are kin.”

Grace began our conversation that day by doing what families do best – by taking care their own. She reiterated her protective stance of the Young family, past and present. She spoke cautiously to me of who within the Young family I might contact and who I must not. The secret of my grandmother’s illegitimate birth would not be advertised on her watch – though by then it had occurred more than 80 years before.

Grace eventually did thaw. She became family to me for eight years. As Grace neared the century mark, she asked me to come and visit with her. She said that there were some things I needed to have. Toward the end of my visit she pointed to the antique porcelain canister (turns out it is a small cookie jar) on the fireplace mantel. “Opal gave that to me,” she said. “It should be yours now.”

The same day, Grace returned the copies of Opal’s letters to me. She had harbored them for eight years. She said: “I don’t want them here when I am gone – someone may find them.” I realized that Grace was still protecting the family, still protecting Opal, and that my grandmother’s birth would always be, in Grace’s eyes, a secret.

This was not the last time I saw Grace. She moved to a senior center and I planned a visit with her. I had come to genuinely care about Grace, and I wanted to validate one last time my living tie to Opal and the Young family. Wheelchair-bound now, her nurse brought her out to me. “Hello, Grace,” I said. “It’s Jeff, Opal’s great-grandson.”

In her reply so much was said: “I don’t remember…”


[1] Opal Rae Young [Porter] [Everett] (1895–1978).

[2] Grace Lucile Brickley (1904–2004), daughter of Carrie Rebecca Young, a paternal aunt to Opal Young. Grace had been (very briefly) married to A.W. “Fritz” Nicodemus – a surname she almost immediately renounced.

[3] Last Will and Testament of Opal R. Everett, Los Angeles County, October 1977.

[4] Emma Lou Peake (1919–2007) was a next door neighbor to the widow Opal R. Everett in West Hollywood, California.

[5] Jeffery A. Record, Looking for Opal, privately published in October 1995.

About Jeff Record

Jeff Record received a B.A. degree in Philosophy from Santa Clara University, and works as a teaching assistant with special needs children at a local school. He recently co-authored with Christopher C. Child, “William and Lydia (Swift) Young of Windham, Connecticut: A John Howland and Richard Warren Line,” for the Mayflower Descendant. Jeff enjoys helping his ancestors complete their unfinished business, and successfully petitioned the Secretary of the Army to overturn a 150 year old dishonorable Civil War discharge. A former Elder with the Mother Lode Colony of Mayflower Descendants in the State of California, Jeff and his wife currently live with their Golden Retriever near California’s Gold Country where he continues to explore, discover, and research family history.

8 thoughts on “A knock at the door

  1. What a wonderful story with the message that no matter how independent — we all need family. You are so lucky to have had an eight year relationship with her — and she with you.

  2. I agree, Your writing is so well done and makes the story come alive. I am another cousin!! and am grateful for your interest in our line.

  3. Jeff–i wonder if Will Young who was married to Florence Schooley was of the young family you are writing about. Uncle Will was a bee keeper. He & Aunt Florence lived in Chanute, Kan. Also of interest is Emma Lou Peake–but then Peake is spelled differently than our Peaks. so probably no connection. Very interesting . Now if we could just find out what happened to the Harmon boy who was lost during the Civil War–he just disappeared according to Dad. Never another word about him. Frieda

  4. I found this story while stumbling through geology records. My husbands great aunt is this Emma Lou Peake. I absolutely adored her and we miss her very much. I would love to have any information you have on her. Family always has their own version of a person, but I wonder if she told you anything fabulous that she didn’t share with us! Thanks so much for sharing!

    1. Emma always treated me with a great deal of kindness, and I will always be in her debt. I have a copy of a ltter she wrote to me in the mid 1990’s. It isn’t much, but I’d be happy to share. I’d love to see a picture of her also if at all possible! Many thanks for reaching out –

      Jeff Record


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